Creating a wedding guest list can be a daunting task, but with a structured approach, you can ensure that it is manageable and stress-free. Before we get started, your first task would be to decide the size of your wedding. This involves some initial research work and family discussions. Once that’s settled, here’s a step-by-step guide to help you craft the perfect wedding guest list:

Family First

Once you’ve decided on the size of your wedding, it’s time to categorize your guests. In Asia, weddings are grand events that double as huge family reunions. Therefore, we advise couples to start by listing all immediate and extended family members to be invited.

Allocate Numbers

After setting aside the number of family members you’ll be inviting from both sides, divide the remaining guest count into percentages to be allocated. For instance, you might split the remaining guest count into equal thirds: one third for you and your partner, one third for your parents, and one third for your future parents-in-law. If you and your partner are paying for the wedding, you might allocate a higher percentage to yourselves, such as 50% for you and your partner, and 25% each for both sets of parents.

Categorise Your Guests

Many couples categorize friends into groups like schoolmates, university friends, childhood friends, colleagues, etc. However, we advise dividing your potential remaining guests that reflects how close you are with your guest. This helps prioritize who should be on the list. Start with the must-invites – those who you absolutely cannot imagine getting married without.

• Close friends

Consider Plus-Ones

Navigating plus-ones can be tricky, especially since your friends might be in different stages of their relationships. It’s best to establish a clear rule to follow. For example, you could decide that only couples who have been dating for six months or longer will receive a plus-one invite. Sticking to this guideline will ensure fairness and consistency across your guest list.

Be Ready to Compromise and Revise

Inevitably, you may need to make cuts. Prioritise guests who mean the most to you and who will contribute to the joy of your day. Once you have a working list, put it aside for a few days, then revisit it. You might remember someone you missed or feel differently about certain choices.

By following these steps, you’ll be able to create a guest list that reflects your relationships and ensures a memorable and joyous wedding day.